Don’t be desperate for results (focus on building skills)

❌ Don’t be desperate for results.
I want you to become infatuated with the process.
πŸ˜“ Most of my clients lead incredibly busy lives. They juggle full-time jobs, family responsibilities, and the constant ebb and flow of priorities. Work can dominate one moment, while health takes the lead in another. Children, mental well-being, leisure time, and leisure/rest also rotate as primary concerns. They’re essentially playing a never-ending game of Priority Tetris (Imma trademark that).
🎯The majority of them have a shared goal: to shed a few pounds, gain some muscle, increase their strength, and feel confident in their own skin. The catch? Their past attempts to achieve these goals usually involved an obsession with the end result.
They had a special event coming up and decided to shed 5 pounds within a week, or perhaps a wedding gave them three months to lose 20 pounds. In both scenarios, they became fixated on the result.
And often, they succeeded in reaching their short-term goals. They drastically cut their calorie intake, eliminated carbs, resorted to one meal a day, ordered pre-packaged meals, or logged countless hours on the treadmill. But here’s the harsh reality: these methods can be helpful tools and used properly in the right context but are seldom sustainable in the long run.
Sure, they might hit their target, but they’re left clueless about how they got there and, more importantly, how to maintain it for a lifetime.
It’s akin to taking a Chemistry test in school by cheating off a friend (or a well-placed notecard up your sleeve 😬). Sure you pass a single test but what happens when you need those skills in the real world? Okay, maybe that’s not the most relatable analogy because, let’s be honest, how often do we use chemistry in our daily lives?
βœ… But my point is this: if you genuinely want long-lasting results, you must focus on building skills, habits, and routines. More importantly, you have to learn to become adaptable – the ability to weather the storms life inevitably throws at you.
You need to develop an obsession for learning these skills, building those habits, and embedding those routines into your daily life, without fixating on the final outcome. Be comfortable with the idea of working on these aspects without expecting instant, visible results. In fact, you should be willing to continue these efforts, regardless of the results you’re seeing because, in the end, the practice itself is more valuable than any outcome it may yield.
Now before I get trolled I’m not saying that goals and outcomes are not important. What I’m saying is that the process of achieving those goals is often more important, valuable, and something we actually control.