It’s not working for me. A phrase commonly used in health and fitness. But also life in general.
- This diet just isn’t working for me.
- These workouts are not working for me.
- This relationship isn’t working for me.
- My job isn’t working for me.
I’ve noticed that people who use this phrase use it often. They use it for just about everything.
Sometimes it’s a valuable phrase to use. But often it’s used so you don’t have to take responsibility. It’s the plans, approach, or others person’s job to make things work for you.
If you’ve used this phrase often I’d like for you to take a moment to consider something. How many times have you used it? Do you notice something similar between all of those things?
In his article, “Why Everyone You Date Is a Psycho,” Mark has this to say.
If everyone you end up emotionally involved with is a psycho and finds a way to make your life hell, the only thing they all have in common is you. So start by looking at yourself.
The same holds true for your health pursuits. If every fitness plan and nutrition approach “doesn’t work for you.” Maybe it’s time to start looking at yourself.
Now, this doesn’t mean you need to tough it out. Some fitness plans and nutrition approaches are just dumb.
But spend some time reflecting. And see if you can learn more about yourself.
- What was it about this approach that originally appealed to me?
- What did I like about it?
- What did I not like about it?
- Is there anything from it I’d like to keep?
- If I wanted this to work for me, what would need to be different?
Have you ever asked yourself what would work for you? What do you need to guarantee you are successful?