Last week I went on a date.
Not sure if you’ve been on a date recently but most of the time you get something to eat on these things.
Eating well is important to me. Choosing high-quality foods often matters to me too. And hey, aesthetics matter as well. I want to look great naked.
When I go on dates and eat off plan I get a little food anxiety. Not sure why. I know one meal off plan isn’t going to ruin anything like one perfect meal isn’t going to lead to dramatic progress.
But for some reason, it feels like a tiny failure. It’s the perfectionist in me 🤷. FML.
We went to Shake Shack.
Best burger I’ve had. Sorry, all you In-N-Out zealots.
I got the Shack Burger and skipped the fries because this felt like a 1% better solution for me and my goals.
She got the Silver Lake Burger (only available in Silver Lake) and skipped the fries as well.
Most likely because she was like, “shit, this guy is a nutritionist. I should pass on these fries too.”
🍟Me: “You skipped the fries because I’m a nutritionist didn’t you?”
🍟Me: LOL. “Why don’t we get one to split.”
We didn’t end up splitting the fries but had a good laugh about it. It led to a great conversation about all the weird eating, diet, and health hacks we’ve tried over the years.
If you have health and fitness goals like weight loss, building muscle, or choosing better foods more often.
𝐄𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐢𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐱𝐭 𝐨𝐟 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐥 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐛𝐞 𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐞𝐧𝐠𝐢𝐧𝐠.
There are dates, special events, travel, office outings, social gatherings, and more.
Sometimes this means you’ll be saying no to things like alcohol, fries, and fun (jk jk… sorta).
Other times it means you’ll be looking to make slightly better choices like 1 alcoholic drink instead of 2, small fries instead of the large, and some fun instead of all the fun.
The cool thing is you’re allowed to do whatever you want and as long as you’re ok with the tradeoffs it was the best choice for you.
𝐌𝐨𝐬𝐭 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐈 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐤 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐝𝐨𝐧’𝐭 𝐧𝐞𝐞𝐝 𝐦𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐭𝐞𝐥𝐥 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐦 𝐭𝐨 𝐞𝐚𝐭 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐯𝐞𝐠𝐠𝐢𝐞𝐬, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐧 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐭𝐞𝐢𝐧, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐞𝐚𝐭 𝐟𝐞𝐰𝐞𝐫 𝐛𝐚𝐤𝐞𝐝 𝐠𝐨𝐨𝐝𝐬.
They also don’t need me to tell them to work out more consistently, go to bed, or practice some sort of de-stressing practice.
They need me to help them identify what tradeoffs will and will not help them move closer and further away from their goals.
And to help them choose which ones they are ready, willing, and able to make based on their past, present, and future circumstances.
𝐈𝐭 𝐣𝐮𝐬𝐭 𝐬𝐨 𝐡𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐞𝐧𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐦𝐨𝐬𝐭 𝐨𝐟 𝐮𝐬 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐓𝐄𝐑𝐑𝐈𝐁𝐋𝐄 𝐚𝐭 𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐟𝐲𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐬𝐞 𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐝𝐞𝐨𝐟𝐟𝐬.
We believe we either need to make ALL of them (like no sugar, carbs, alcohol, or fun ever again). Or we don’t think or want to make any. Usually, there’s some middle ground.
If you have goals you’re working towards. Whether it be health, work, relationship, or something else. One of the most important things you can do is spend time identifying the tradeoffs you’re willing and not willing to make.
Then communicate those changes with the people you spend the most time with and ask for their support.
If you read this far I appreciate you.
Send me an email and let me know your favorite burger joint 🍔
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