Last week I went on a date.
Not sure if you’ve been on a date recently but most of the time you get something to eat on these things.
Eating well is important to me. Choosing high-quality foods often matters to me too. And hey, aesthetics matter as well. I want to look great naked.
When I go on dates and eat off plan I get a little food anxiety. Not sure why. I know one meal off plan isn’t going to ruin anything like one perfect meal isn’t going to lead to dramatic progress.
But for some reason, it feels like a tiny failure. It’s the perfectionist in me ๐คท. FML.
We went to Shake Shack.
Best burger I’ve had. Sorry, all you In-N-Out zealots.
I got the Shack Burger and skipped the fries because this felt like a 1% better solution for me and my goals.
She got the Silver Lake Burger (only available in Silver Lake) and skipped the fries as well.
Most likely because she was like, “shit, this guy is a nutritionist. I should pass on these fries too.”
๐Me: “You skipped the fries because I’m a nutritionist didn’t you?”
๐Her: “100%”
๐Me: LOL. “Why don’t we get one to split.”
We didn’t end up splitting the fries but had a good laugh about it. It led to a great conversation about all the weird eating, diet, and health hacks we’ve tried over the years.
If you have health and fitness goals like weight loss, building muscle, or choosing better foods more often.
๐๐๐ญ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ข๐ง ๐ญ๐ก๐ ๐๐จ๐ง๐ญ๐๐ฑ๐ญ ๐จ๐ ๐ซ๐๐๐ฅ ๐ฅ๐ข๐๐ ๐๐๐ง ๐๐ ๐๐ก๐๐ฅ๐ฅ๐๐ง๐ ๐ข๐ง๐ .
There are dates, special events, travel, office outings, social gatherings, and more.
Sometimes this means youโll be saying no to things like alcohol, fries, and fun (jk jkโฆ sorta).
Other times it means youโll be looking to make slightly better choices like 1 alcoholic drink instead of 2, small fries instead of the large, and some fun instead of all the fun.
The cool thing is youโre allowed to do whatever you want and as long as youโre ok with the tradeoffs it was the best choice for you.
๐๐จ๐ฌ๐ญ ๐ฉ๐๐จ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐ ๐ ๐ฐ๐จ๐ซ๐ค ๐ฐ๐ข๐ญ๐ก ๐๐จ๐งโ๐ญ ๐ง๐๐๐ ๐ฆ๐ ๐ญ๐จ ๐ญ๐๐ฅ๐ฅ ๐ญ๐ก๐๐ฆ ๐ญ๐จ ๐๐๐ญ ๐ฆ๐จ๐ซ๐ ๐ฏ๐๐ ๐ ๐ข๐๐ฌ, ๐๐ง๐ ๐ฅ๐๐๐ง ๐ฉ๐ซ๐จ๐ญ๐๐ข๐ง, ๐๐ง๐ ๐ญ๐จ ๐๐๐ญ ๐๐๐ฐ๐๐ซ ๐๐๐ค๐๐ ๐ ๐จ๐จ๐๐ฌ.
They also donโt need me to tell them to work out more consistently, go to bed, or practice some sort of de-stressing practice.
They need me to help them identify what tradeoffs will and will not help them move closer and further away from their goals.
And to help them choose which ones they are ready, willing, and able to make based on their past, present, and future circumstances.
๐๐ญ ๐ฃ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ญ ๐ฌ๐จ ๐ก๐๐ฉ๐ฉ๐๐ง๐ฌ ๐ญ๐ก๐๐ญ ๐ฆ๐จ๐ฌ๐ญ ๐จ๐ ๐ฎ๐ฌ ๐๐ซ๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ญ ๐ข๐๐๐ง๐ญ๐ข๐๐ฒ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐๐ฌ๐ ๐ญ๐ซ๐๐๐๐จ๐๐๐ฌ.
We believe we either need to make ALL of them (like no sugar, carbs, alcohol, or fun ever again). Or we donโt think or want to make any. Usually, thereโs some middle ground.
If you have goals youโre working towards. Whether it be health, work, relationship, or something else. One of the most important things you can do is spend time identifying the tradeoffs youโre willing and not willing to make.
Then communicate those changes with the people you spend the most time with and ask for their support.
If you read this far I appreciate you.
Send me an email and let me know your favorite burger joint ๐
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